Just when it seems that everything is on the right path to travel down the river of life in a safe and progressive pace, befuddlement and confusion tend to enter the Drift. It may be a sudden decision which appears without warning, changing the current of the family runs, or simply idiosyncrasy of the moment. Some doctors or set course almost immediately, others wait Rapids, and some just never get with the same direction again, choose dead-end, no end channel to nowhere. Which brings changes and challenges, growth and development of the individual’s heart and soul.
Sudden decision can throw befuddlement in the picture. My cousin recently completed an unhappy marriage. Although he is my cousin and my prejudice is obvious, it seemed like his ex-wife just did not enjoy the thrill and excitement of trying new things, go new places, and meet new horizons. She definitely does not like current life. And then after a few years to try love, she, moving back to his home state, take the children and go to his military career. Fortunately he landed on both feet, again the best track for long-term Marine commitment, and soon met a lovely woman with whom to share his life. Some family members were left in befuddlement and confusion over seemingly quick decision and his remarriage, but I just saw the joy on his face and of his new wife along with a smile and her children. Advice would beat him from fifty had if he had asked and asked, instead he chose his way and we are quite happy.
Sometimes it hits the current family floats rough currents that jostle group left and right. Another uncle who is a dedicated father and husband was tragically after when his wife chose it perfectly fit body and newfound friends of marital bliss. This exit includes his son, his dog, her home, many of her belongings with her husband for dating, drinking and find themselves. While I wish her luck, I’m saddened by the great choice of her leaving the rest of us in amazement and confusion. Just when we thought we really knew her, she was known, take a side trip while we ran a stream. Fortunately again, my cousin is getting both feet under him again as he recognizes the love and comfort of his family closer. Why do truly good people end up in such horrendous circumstances?
And then there’s abnormal behavior, it defies understanding that it lacks logic and realism. Off of my sisters sons and friends of decisions that cause me to wonder. I helped her through the loss of the first husband, a kind of person that I do not really know well. When she married was in my house with my husband and I as a witness. Her husband was a longtime friend and the four of us were very comfortable relationship. Their marriage was short and he died of lung cancer, but I was in love and support. Imagine my surprise when I hear through the grapevine that the community she has married (and why not), but I’ve never heard the word, even after several months of this marriage amendment or any of the other changes she has made. I wish her happiness and do not begrudge her position in any way, it just seems unusual friendship. I am both astonished and confused.
While all of these circumstances, befuddlement and confusion, I also celebrate the opportunity for change and challenge, growth and development. I’ve learned about adaptation and change the way people, pause for a new life while true friends and family pick up the pieces and rearrange them with love, and I’ve had a wonderful study of friendship, stability, and a review of prospects and goals. Each of these produces enriched mind and the goodness that I refocus, rethink and reorganize my life. I guess that befuddled and confused has many rewarding points.