Imagine what it would be like to truly know someone, to understand what makes a person tick, to recognize the strengths and foibles of another, to walk in someone else’s skin. Well, the more I think about this, the more frightening the idea must. In many ways I hardly know myself as I discover the secrets and mental meanderings, hidden talents and specific weaknesses of each minute of the day. Every moment is an adventure as I learn and discover something new about the inner tick ing my, I can not envision psychological overload that would come to know that someone else at 100% capacity. And so the proposal that we really only know a summary of other people, but why is this so?
First, every experience every day is unique to the individual. Two friends can be in the same place at the same time to monitor the event, but who will interpret the vision based on personal outlook, experience and interpretation. This is one way to explain how two children born in the same family with the same parents and the genetic background can be so different in appearance, behavior, attitude, physical ability, and every other aspect of being human. Even twins who are said to have a special relationship that exceed the notes are different in subtle ways. They have a genetic make-up that matches the emotional and inner make-up that resonates in some way.
Secondly, life guides us in various directions and thus range perspective when surveying scene or make a crucial decision. Our attitudes vary and so do the points-of-view us. Even people who seem to agree on all choose different courses and routes from time to time and perhaps very often. Life Lock-step would be pretty dull and unadventurous. I do not think perfect synchrony would lead to happiness because I believe that diversity adds zest and joy.
Third, do not allow us to truly know another is that we are not in control, other than if a friend is robotic or automaton. I can barely control your own thoughts and feelings and so I can not even picture a domineering power over someone else. I think next time I come to this in childrearing though even has many twists and turns that do not allow me to truly know my children. I have offered guidance and supervision, my viewpoint and philosophy, and I’ve tried to set a positive example in my attitude and my behavior, but it is up to them to use, own and dispose of the appropriate person their wants and needs.
Even though we meant to know people, when it comes to deep-down soul searching understanding, we really only know the outlines. I know my colleagues at work, but I do not know them in their homes. I know my spouse when we are together, but I do not know all aspects of his thinking even then and after 40 + years and I can not exactly determine his thoughts, actions and reactions. I know my kids, but then again I do not, and the same holds true for family and friends. But I rather like the outline visualization because it adds magic and wonder of relationships. Change and change are an excellent tool to maintain brainpower and so I am thrilled at the prospect of getting to know others better, but never in total capacity.